I walked my neighborhood this am stopping at every streetlight and pumping out air squats. Probably looks a little weird, but I’m ok with that. This has become a habit, it’s familiar and it feels good. I knocked out 10 sets and headed over to the hill I sprint each week.
I sprint up 105 meters and walk down, rinse repeat. As I’m walking down I see my neighbor running up the hill past me. He is an Air Force officer I think. I don’t know the guy too well because of an unfortunate incident about a year ago.
I was working in my driveway doing vehicle maintenance, these neighbors had just moved in and I hadn’t had a chance to meet them yet. But, I can hear the mom berating her kids in the back yard. Little kids. This kids are so little they can’t even form sentences yet. I can hear that they are not throwing tantrums or acting up at all, she is the one throwing a tantrum. This goes on for about an hour, no exaggeration.
I am trying to ignore this situation and go about my business, but after literally an hour of listening to her bully these tiny kids, I can’t take it any more. I wanted to help her and help those kids. I just could not stand another minute of listening to little toddlers take that kind of treatment. So, I walk over to the fence, I can’t see her but I can hear her, . . . I interrupt her continued verbal assault with “Hey, . . . can you lighten up a little bit?” “They’re just little kids.”
I didn’t attack her, I did not berate her, or accuse her. Not directly anyway. I just said “Can you lighten up a little.” That’s it. Well, this was not appreciated to say the least. A year later she will not make eye contact with me and hustles her kids away when she sees me. I am persona non grata. It kinda sucks. I stopped trying to smooth things over after my fourth try.
Would I do it again? I’m not sure. But, today is Father’s Day and this situation came to mind because I saw the Dad running this morning and he seems like a real stand up guy, and she seems like a good Mom, I have not heard here mistreat those little ones since.
Have I lost my temper? You bet. Should I be held accountable when I’m behaving badly? Yep. We should all hold each other accountable out of love.
So, Lighten up! Happy Father’s Day.
Ben Wagner (164)
Member The 365 Commitment
