Day 62 – Stop Being Available

For years, I carried a belief that seemed noble at the time: being available 24/7 was proof of my dedication. I thought it said to the world, “I’m reliable. I’m indispensable.” But as the years passed, the cracks in that narrative began to show. My time? Taken. My dreams? Neglected. My sense of self-worth? Diminished.

If you’ve ever felt this way, I want to share something that changed my life: learning to be unavailable can be one of the greatest acts of self-respect you’ll ever make.


The Truth About Availability and Respect

Here’s what I’ve learned: people value what has boundaries. They respect clarity. And they respect you more when you show them that your time and energy are not endless resources to be freely given away.

When we say “yes” to everyone else’s priorities, we’re simultaneously saying “no” to our own. Without realizing it, we teach others to overlook our dreams because we’ve made a habit of overlooking them ourselves. The hard part? This isn’t anyone else’s doing—it’s a lesson we unwittingly taught them. And unlearning it? That starts with us.


Finding Freedom Through Intentionality

Taking back control of your time doesn’t happen by accident. It’s about making deliberate choices that align with your values. Here’s how I started reclaiming mine:


1. Identify What Truly Matters

Before you can set boundaries, you have to define what you’re protecting. What are the non-negotiables in your life—the habits, routines, or commitments that move you closer to the person you want to become?

For me, this meant a dedicated morning routine of journaling, planning my day, and a quick workout. For you, it might be family dinners, creating art, or carving out space to dream big. Write these priorities down. Guard them like treasures. These are the anchors that will keep you grounded.


2. Set Boundaries With Purpose

This step requires courage and clarity. Decide when you’re available and for what. Communicate those boundaries honestly with others. Here’s what this might sound like:

  • “I’m happy to help, but I’m only available during these hours.”
  • “My mornings are blocked for personal work—I’ll respond in the afternoon.”
  • “I’d love to assist, but I’ve already committed my time elsewhere.”

At first, this may feel awkward or even selfish. But trust me, people adapt. And if they don’t? Those are the individuals who were likely taking the most from you without giving anything back.


3. Say Yes With Intention, No Without Guilt

Every “yes” is a commitment of your time and energy. It’s worth asking: does this align with my values? Does it contribute to my goals or bring me joy? If not, why are you agreeing to it?

Saying “no” is not an act of rejection—it’s an act of self-preservation. It’s your way of making space for the things that truly matter.


4. Protect What You’ve Built

Once you’ve carved out time for what matters most, don’t let it slip away. Treat it like an unbreakable appointment with your future self. Silence the notifications, shut the door, and immerse yourself in the things that inspire and energize you.

No one else will defend your time for you. That responsibility rests squarely on your shoulders. And the reward? A life that feels purposeful and aligned.


The Surprising Reward of Saying “No”

You might worry that setting boundaries will push people away. But what actually happens is the opposite: people respect you more. They see someone with a clear sense of direction, someone who values their own life enough to protect it. And the best part? You begin to respect yourself more, too.

When you prioritize your goals and commit to life-giving habits, you start showing up as your best self for the things and people that truly matter. Instead of being spread thin, you’re fully present where it counts.


A Life on Your Terms

Reclaiming your time is not selfish—it’s necessary. It’s about building a life that aligns with your values instead of one that bends to the demands of others.

The next time someone asks for your availability, pause. Ask yourself, “Does this align with my purpose, or am I simply keeping busy for someone else’s benefit?” If it’s the latter, give yourself permission to decline.

Your dreams deserve attention. Your priorities deserve space. And you deserve a life that reflects your deepest intentions.

It all begins with one powerful choice: to honor yourself enough to say no.

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Steven Larky
Steven Larky
4 hours ago

Loved this: Say Yes With Intention, No Without Guilt

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